I think sometimes things get really difficult. Academics are hard, living up to expectations are hard, being confident is hard, feeling like you don’t know where things are going is hard, finances are hard, and relationships are hard. There tends to be a lot of hurt and instead of talking about it, it’s easier to internalize those feelings and continue to push them off, hoping they just go away. I know I do that. Vulnerability – especially when others seem to be so sure of themselves – doesn’t come easily because heartbreak is the last thing we need to add to the list of things that are hard.

Speaking for myself, I know sometimes the most comforting thing is to be told “you’re not alone.” Sometimes hearing “it gets better” makes it seem like all I can do is wait…and I don’t like not feeling in control. So to all those who are going through a difficult semester, I hope you remember that you are not alone. You are never alone. And there will always be someone to listen.

If you are struggling, please schedule an appointment with the TANG center. The number is (510) 642-9494. The first five counseling appointments are free. The Berkeley Free Clinic has a great counseling team as well. The number to contact them is (510) 548-2570. Confide in friends if they are people you can trust. And, if you need a stranger to talk to, you can always email me at m.dagher@berkeley.edu.
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